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First Love

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If I know what love is, it is because of you. - Hermann Hesse:

As I get older, I find myself experiencing a joy that I somehow missed before. Maybe, it’s just being blessed with grandchildren. They open your eyes, and your heart, to a completely different world. Kind of like the island of Pandora, before the world butted in.

Why didn’t I see this before, raising my own kids?  Suppose it doesn’t matter, I see it now:)

While I’m sure there are many things that can be said, that come along with aging…I’m going with my first thought. It’s usually the best one.

Which leads me to a story my daughter just shared…she called after a Valentine’s Day shopping stop, at Target, with my grandsons (three and five). Standing in front of the Valentine Cards, she asked Tyler(5) which package of Valentine Cards and assorted treats he would like to get, to share with his class.

Tyler looked up at her and said, “I only need one Valentine” for Erica, she’s my only Valentine.

My daughter welled up, as I did…imagining the love in this little man’s heart.

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I love you. Not only for what you are. But for what I am. When I am with you - Roy Croft:Love (first stanza)

Without an argument, she walked with him to the single Valentine’s Day cards and let him pick out his first symbol of love.  He chose a card with puppies & hearts, along with a big bag of conversation hearts.

All was right in the world.  She said you could just feel it. Such an amazing thing to be able to take notice of and more importantly…to be a part of.

Where’s my tissue:)

On the other side of the spectrum…a few years ago, someone sent me  “The Valentine” by Ruth McDonald. It’s such a wonderful Valentine’s Day story, and the complete opposite, of the Valentine story, I just told you…heartwarming.

Feel free to share.

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“The Valentine” by Ruth McDonald

He was a shy little boy, not very popular with the other children in Grade One. As Valentine’s Day approached, his mother was delighted when he asked her one evening to sit down and write the names of all the children in his class so that he could make a Valentines for each. Slowly he remembered each name aloud, and his mother recorded them on a piece of paper. He worried endlessly for fear he would forget someone.

Armed with a book of Valentines to cut out, with scissors and crayons and paste, he plodded his conscientious way down the list. When each one was finished, his mother printed the name on a piece of paper and watched him laboriously copy it. As the pile of finished Valentines grew, so did his satisfaction.

About this time, his mother began to worry whether the other children would make Valentines for him. He hurried home so fast each afternoon to get on with his task, that it seemed likely the other children playing along the street would forget his existence altogether. How absolutely horrible if he went off to the party armed with 37 tokens of love- and no one had remembered him! She wondered if there were some way she could sneak a Valentine among those he was making so that he would be sure of receiving at least a few. But he watched his hoard so jealously, and counted them over so lovingly, that there was no chance to slip in an extra. She assumed a mother’s most normal role, that of patient waiting.

The day of the Valentines box had finally arrived, and she watched him trudge off down the snowy street, a box of heart-shaped cookies in one hand, a shopping bag clutched in the other with 37 neat tokens of his labor. She watched him with a burning heart. “Please God”, she prayed, “let him get at least a few!”

All afternoon her hands were busy here and there, but her heart was at the school. At half-past three she took her knitting and sat with studied coincidence in a chair that gave a full view of the street.

Finally, he appeared, alone. Her heart sank. Up to the street he came, turning every once in a while to back up a few steps into the wind. She strained her eyes to see his face. At that distance it was just a rosy blur.

It was not until he turned in at the walk that she saw it—the one lone Valentine clutched in his little red mitt. Only one. After all his work. And from the teacher probably. The knitting blurred before her eyes. If only you could stand between your child and life! She laid down her work and walked to meet him at the door.

“What rosy cheeks! She said. “Here, let me untie your scarf. “Were the cookies good?”

He turned toward her a face shining with happiness and complete fulfillment. “Do you know what? He said. “I didn’t forget one. Not a single one!”

Happy Saturday.


No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. -Francois Mocuriac