Category Archives: self

Being Here Now

Years of practice and I can still only do what I’m doing while I’m doing it.

Writing this post thinking about walking bootless dogs, getting the towels out of the dryer and mourning the loss of bagels … must be the gluten … seriously they could have come up with a better word.

Could have listened to Ram Dass, in eighth grade, when he wrote … “Now is now. Are you going to be here or not?”

Being in a moment is an interesting place and from what I can tell, while I’m in and out of consciousness, it’s very relaxing, it doesn’t cost anything to get in, it’s really quiet and the doors never close.  

aha moments
Syracuse, NY Sidewalk A-ha Moment © Mara Lee
Insert Favorite Quotes by Ram Dass here - have a different moment I have to get to.  :)-

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” ― Ram Dass

In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.” ― Ram Dass

“We’re fascinated by the words–but where we meet is in the silence behind them.”  ― Ram Dass

“Spiritual practices help us move from identifying with the ego to identifying with the soul. Old age does that for you too. It spiritualizes people naturally.”  ― Ram Dass

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” ― Ram Dass

“The most exquisite paradox… as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all. As long as you want power, you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you ever dreamed possible.” ― Ram Dass

“As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be you can’t see how it is.” ― Ram Dass

“A feeling of aversion or attachment toward something is your clue that there’s work to be done.”  ― Ram Dass

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” – Ram Dass

and a personal favorite … “Everything changes once we identify with being the witness to the story, instead of the actor in it.” ― Ram Dass

howdy do
we’re here! – grand canyon

Moments Matter Thursday


Inconclusive Travel Plans 2012

I have been in many places, but I’ve never been in Cahoots. Apparently, you can’t go alone. You have to be in Cahoots with someone.

I’ve also never been in Cognito. I hear no one recognizes you there.

I have, however, been in Sane. They don’t have an airport; you have to be driven there. I have made several trips there, thanks to my friends, family and work.

I would like to go to Conclusions, but you have to jump, and I’m not too much on physical activity anymore.

I have also been in Doubt. That is a sad place to go, and I try not to visit there too often.

I’ve been in Flexible, but only when it was very important to stand firm.

Sometimes I’m in Capable, and I go there more often as I’m getting older.

One of my favorite places to be is in Suspense! It really gets the adrenalin flowing and pumps up the old heart! At my age I need all the stimuli I can get!

I may have been in Continent, and I don’t remember what country I was in. It’s an age thing. They tell me it is very wet and damp there.


Everyday should be National Mental Health Day.  You can do your part by remembering to forward this post to at least one unstable person.

My job is done!

Life is too short for negative drama and petty things. So laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly!

From one unstable person to another… I hope everyone is happy in your head – we’re all doing pretty well in mine!


A Rhythm All Its Own

I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day. ~Elwyn Brooks White

What do you get when you cross “extraordinary” loved ones that still talk to me, work load blessings beyond belief, memorable road trips, while living through a remodel to renovate a 148 year old building?

It’s either a sh*t load of patience or … immense gratitude.

Probably both … but I haven’t had enough coffee to make up a new word.

Still looking for that rhythm that I thought I once had.

Silly rabbit, Trix are for kids.

A Pleasure in Itself

Chop Wood. Carry Water.
'Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water, after enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.'

Practicing the art of finding joy in doing what I’m doing while I’m doing it, no matter what.

Not easy to master but I consider it my personal responsibility to at least try.

Wish me luck.

More Than Slightly aMused

Sigmund Freud
The aim of psychoanalysis is to relieve people of their neurotic unhappiness so that they can be normally unhappy. ~Sigmund Freud, attributed

Going through blog archives and realized how proud and grateful I am.

So many life experiences, over the last 3 years, and I’m still here to talk about it.

Seems that I have conquered the final hurdle of wondering whether people like me or not.

You either do or you don’t.

If sharing my journey alters your choice to buy what I’m selling, we should both be grateful.

I’m just a girl sharing random thoughts.

I have my health, kids, a home, a dog, a job, lists, people that love me and people that don’t.

Decided that my favorite part of blogging is having the journal I always claimed I would keep.

Turns out that it’s really cheap therapy.

I’m Blogging Instead of This

vintage housewife
Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success.

Always struggle to prioritize my never ending list.

I work closely with someone who prioritizes extremely well. That’s probably why we work so well together.

After several attempts at emulating his process … I’ve decided that it’s best to minimize the number of things I have to do … like vacuuming, dusting and laundry.

Then we’ll be good to go!

I do the cleaning because someone has to.  Besides his work is so much more demanding than mine. But it’s really not about whose job it is anyways. If I don’t do it then I have to find someone who will.

He’ll say that it’s a threat and he would probably be right.

I had cleaning women, in a past life. They were sisters.

As per usual, I would clean the house from top to bottom, before they even got there. It was crazy.

Those lovely days of coming home to a totally clean house ended the day they came to clean my house wearing two of my favorite tee shirts. Knew they were taking things. My vintage apple slicer disappeared into thin air and that always irked me. I’m over it now.

So weird and stupid.

I hate confrontation and people who steal. Needless to say, we parted ways.

Funny how that came to mind.

Now I can say that I blogged.

Off to vacuum.

The First of Many

Don’t you just love the beginning of things?

I do.

Beginnings are fresh, promising and appear to have grand endings.

Problem is, I rarely consider the middle and that’s where all of the work takes place.

Decided that this year is going to be about working through the middle.

If nothing else, I’ll get to see if I got the ending right.

Happy New Year!

Hollywood Boulevard February 2011 • all rights reserved©2011 Cre8tivegang

Start the Resolutions Without Me

May all your troubles last as long as your New Year's resolutions. ~Joey Adams

Sick of being reminded of the resolutions that have remained on my list, since 1970.

Guess the only thing left to do is finish that list and move on.

Instead of beating myself up for the same things that remain undone … I’m going to concentrate on the amazing things that I did resolve to do and have since completed.

Besides, it can’t be healthy to remind yourself that you haven’t lost weight … in fact you probably gained weight since the last time you wrote it down.

Not the way I want to start the New Year.


The Bones of Me (via Tilly Evan Jones)

Needed my own copy!

The Bones of Me We have history, us humans.  We have our own personal story and the heritage of the people before us.  We have the bones of the past that we can spend moments honoring and clothing in our own skin.  We have the bones of ourselves to cover, protect, and move into life. There is an old story from many cultures about The Bone Woman.  This woman lives in the forlorn places of our world, deserts, ocean islands, mountains, and inner city ruins.  She co … Read More

via Tilly Evan Jones

Getting To Happy

happy life
Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy. ~Robert Anthony

Where does happiness go?
Do we stash it away for someday and then forget where we put it?
It was a sad day when I realized that I can make other people laugh but I can’t make them happy … they have to do that themselves.
That lead me to ask a few people in my life, “Are you happy?”
Surprised that every answer had a pause attached to it with the person’s eyes searching the heavens.
Guess I expected one instant YES, I’m very happy!  But … I didn’t get one.
I tried not to but I had to follow up with, “What is your happiest memory?”
My favorite answer was a friends happy thought that someday she would be driving down the coast in her pink Barbie Corvette.
Guess it’s a start … although she’s in her fifties, very very unhappy and can’t see how lucky she is to drive a Hyundai:)

Signs Along the Way

The Good Life
Stopped along the way. all rights reserved © 2012

It’s taken me years to realize that I can’t fight the signs that keep showing up.

Kind of like being pelted by little pebbles and if that doesn’t work … the brick in the face usually gets my attention.

I can choose to stop, go, yield, take a detour, turn back, road closed or take the next exit.

It’s a choice.

Corny to some … very real to others.

“The ebb and flow of will is like the movements of the tides… if we cease our vain struggles and lamentations long enough to look away from the personal self…we realize life is going well with us after all.”  – Charles B. Newcomb