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Cause and Effect

“For centuries women have been muses to artists. I wanted to be the muse, I wanted to be the wife of the artist, but I was really trying to avoid the final issue — that I had to do the job myself.” ― Anaïs Nin

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Little Star – private collection 2010

onward.

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Being Here Now

Years of practice and I can still only do what I’m doing while I’m doing it.

Writing this post thinking about walking bootless dogs, getting the towels out of the dryer and mourning the loss of bagels … must be the gluten … seriously they could have come up with a better word.

Could have listened to Ram Dass, in eighth grade, when he wrote … “Now is now. Are you going to be here or not?”

Being in a moment is an interesting place and from what I can tell, while I’m in and out of consciousness, it’s very relaxing, it doesn’t cost anything to get in, it’s really quiet and the doors never close.  

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Syracuse, NY Sidewalk A-ha Moment © Mara Lee
Insert Favorite Quotes by Ram Dass here - have a different moment I have to get to.  :)-

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” ― Ram Dass

In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.” ― Ram Dass

“We’re fascinated by the words–but where we meet is in the silence behind them.”  ― Ram Dass

“Spiritual practices help us move from identifying with the ego to identifying with the soul. Old age does that for you too. It spiritualizes people naturally.”  ― Ram Dass

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” ― Ram Dass

“The most exquisite paradox… as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all. As long as you want power, you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you ever dreamed possible.” ― Ram Dass

“As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be you can’t see how it is.” ― Ram Dass

“A feeling of aversion or attachment toward something is your clue that there’s work to be done.”  ― Ram Dass

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” – Ram Dass

and a personal favorite … “Everything changes once we identify with being the witness to the story, instead of the actor in it.” ― Ram Dass

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we’re here! – grand canyon

Moments Matter Thursday

road blocks and round abouts

after learning how to ship odd-shaped items, to faraway places, by way of Etsy and not losing money, I thought it might be fun to build an online store and sell off my collections … skip ahead hundreds of hours, thinking all systems are go and the infamous one little thing shows up to block a spectacular finish.  it’s all good … I consider that bump in the road as good luck for what’s to come. eventually.

one way or another, it always works out and I only have 110 people ahead of me in line. 🙂

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wait for it © mara lee

last week with jake and charlie

the boys have been very patient (and bark free) with the shop opening. here’s a photo recap of last weeks events from behind the closed-door. happy saturday!

p.s. don’t forget that the shop is OPEN this WEEKEND! Sat 10-4 & Sun Noon-4

reached our final destination

“The world is quiet here.” — Lemony Snicket

la la land
a wink and a smile © mara lee

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Remembering my dad, on Father’s Day

Fathers Day
He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~Clarence Budington Kelland

 

My father owned a business that allowed him the luxury of coming home, once in awhile, around 3 o’clock in the afternoon.

We would park ourselves at the kitchen table and watch the Mel Jass Matinee Movie …. munching on Ritz crackers with peanut butter and watching “The Duke.” I cherish those memories … just me and my dad.  All was right in the world.

John Wayne was a man’s man and so was my father, Eddie. How ironic that they both died on June 11, 1979. (There must be some kind of symbolism, in there somewhere)

There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about my dad and it’s funny the things that you remember the most …

  • The love he had for my mother.
  • His strong forearms.
  • How handsome he was.
  • Laughed until he cried … mostly at his own (half told) jokes.
  • His phonetic spelling.
  • Teaching me how to play Craps … he loved Vegas!
  • Always threatening my mother that he was going to buy her a baby elephant for the backyard.
  • Hiding my sister on the top shelf of the linen closet (during a game of hide and seek) and forgetting her there.
  • Scaring the sh*t out of my mother by donning a wig and a butcher knife, (while she was showering) after they saw “Psycho” for the first time.
  • Standing a full-size lady mannequin in front of the kitchen sink and leaving it there for my brother who was way past curfew. Bet my brother still has a scar from falling over himself running out of the house like a crazy person.
  • His Mickey Mouse jeans.
  • Throwing change over the deli counter (onto the ledge) at the Boulevard Del.
  • His white patent leather shoes that he wore until they were dead.
  • His temper. Might be why I learned to run so fast.
  • Ripping the kid’s phone line out of the wall when it would constantly ring at dinner time.
  • Losing a two ton safe (that was a gift from a client that owned a building in old downtown Minneapolis) off the back of his truck on the highway. The mystery of the safe was in the Star and Tribune newspaper the next day. (you didn’t think he could stop and try to pick it up, did you?)
  • He made the world safe.
  • He loved us the best way he knew how.

I love you, Dad!

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Father's Day Poems...You Never is an unknown author.

You Never

  • You never said I’m leaving
  • You never said goodbye
  • You were gone before I knew it,
  • And only G-d knew why
  • A million times I needed you,
  • A million times I cried
  • If Love alone could have saved you,
  • You never would have died
  • In Life I loved you dearly
  • In death I love you still
  • In my heart you hold a place,
  • That no one could ever fill
  • It broke my heart to lose you,
  • But you didn’t go alone
  • For part of me went with you,
  • The day G-d took you home.

Father’s Day
Over the years
As we grow old,
We remember our father
So brave and bold.

In the garden,
Leaning on the plow,
He would listen to me;
I see him now.

He would give advice
And understand;
He was always there
To lend a hand.

God made fathers
Strong and firm,
For he knew our lives
Would have great concerns.

So he gave us fathers
To teach us to pray,
And guide our lives,
And show us the way.

So on his day
Let’s take the time
To say “Thanks, dad.
I’m so glad that you were mine.”
Mary Frances Bogle

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Leap Already and the Net Will Appear

How to be more creative
If you’re gonna do it … do it. If you’re not then don’t.

Cleaning out the studio and found the great book by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, Psy.D called The Gifted Adult. 

I was flipping through the lessons of becoming an Everyday Genius and I immediately received an email about the very same book.

Coincidence? I think not!

Whether you check out the book or not, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that it might be the book you want to write, or the business you want to build, or the blog you want to start, or the art you want to create.

Whatever it is, ask yourself the question: Am I willing to work hard to bring that ideal vision to life?

HARD WORK being the operative word(s). That means reading the directions all the way through and working through the roadblocks that weren’t in your original vision. Probably because you didn’t have a plan in the first place … you just saw a cool ending. (deep thoughts … from personal experience with Mara) Think it all the way through, before you throw money at it.

“There is surely no point in being a person of vision unless we have the will to act. Daydreams and inklings about taking our personal mission seriously must be translated into action or be lost in the dust of “could have but didn’t.”” ~ Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, Psy.D. from The Gifted Adult

Could have. Should have. Would have.

– Leap Already and the Net Will Appear or don’t 🙂

The creative is the place where no one else has ever been. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself. – Alan Alda

Happy
Happy, Happy!

Jumped In With Both Feet

Trying to gather my thoughts, after involving myself in our small town political race.

It’s the pure hatred and lies that knot up my stomach and to be honest … it scares me that people hate this much … especially when they post it anonymously online.

Didn’t their parents ever tell them not to lie … or for that matter … that hate isn’t a word?

Mine did.

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“It is always assumed by the empty-headed, who chatter about themselves for want of something better, that people who do not discuss their affairs openly must have something to hide.” ― Honoré de Balzac, Père Goriot

We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us.  But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.  ~Tad Williams

Truth that is naked is the most beautiful, and the simpler its expression the deeper is the impression it makes; this is partly because it gets unobstructed hold of the hearer’s mind without his being distracted by secondary thoughts, and partly because he feels that here he is not being corrupted or deceived by the arts of rhetoric, but that the whole effect is got from the thing itself.  ~Arthur Schopenhauer, translated from German

The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do.  ~E.V. Lucas

The truth needs so little rehearsal.  ~Barbara Kingsolver

The measure of a man’s real character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out.  ~Thomas Babington Macaulay

I thank Thee first because I was never robbed before; second, because although they took my purse they did not take my life; third, because although they took my all, it was not much; and fourth because it was I who was robbed, and not I who robbed.  ~Matthew Henry

Be always sure you’re right, then go ahead.  ~Davy Crockett

The reputation of a thousand years may be determined by the conduct of one hour.  ~Japanese Proverb

I never did, or countenanced, in public life, a single act inconsistent with the strictest good faith; having never believed there was one code of morality for a public, and another for a private man.  ~Thomas Jefferson, 1809

God may forgive your sins, but your nervous system won’t.  ~Alfred Korzyybski

Have no fear of robbers or murderers.  They are external dangers, petty dangers.  We should fear ourselves.  Prejudices are the real robbers; vices the real murders.  The great dangers are within us.  Why worry about what threatens our heads or purses?  Let us think instead of what threatens our souls.  ~Victor Hugo

Each man must for himself alone decide what is right and what is wrong, which course is patriotic and which isn’t.  You cannot shirk this and be a man.  To decide against your conviction is to be an unqualified and excusable traitor, both to yourself and to your country, let me label you as they may.  ~Mark Twain

Whether you end up in heaven or hell, it’s not God’s plan it’s your own.  ~Cowboys & Aliens

The more things a man is ashamed of, the more respectable he is.  ~G.B. Shaw

“In time we hate that which we often fear.” ― William Shakespeare

The man who has won millions at the cost of his conscience is a failure.  ~B.C. Forbes

Truth for Mature Humans

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Some of these are priceless…needed to keep a copy for my very own.

Truth for Mature Humans

1. I think part of a best friend’s job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.

2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you’re wrong.

3. I totally take back all those times I didn’t want to nap when I was younger.

4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.

5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

6. Was learning cursive really necessary?

7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I’m pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.

8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.

9. I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t at least kind of tired.

10. Bad decisions make good stories.

11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren’t going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don’t want to have to restart my collection…again.

13. I’m always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report that I swear I did not make any changes to.

14. “Do not machine wash or tumble dry” means I will never wash this – ever.

15. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Dang it!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voice mail. What did you do after I didn’t answer? Drop the phone and run away?

16. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste.

17. I keep some people’s phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

18. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

19. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Lite than Kay.

20. I wish Google Maps had an “Avoid Ghetto” routing option.

21. Sometimes, I’ll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it.

22. I would rather try to carry 10 over-loaded plastic bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in.

23. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I’m trying to finish a text.

24. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.

25. How many times is it appropriate to say “What?” before you just nod and smile because you still didn’t hear or understand a word they said?

26. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers and sisters!

27. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.

28. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber & dumber every year?

29. There’s no worse feeling than that millisecond you’re sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.

30. As a driver I hate pedestrians, and as a pedestrian I hate drivers, but no matter what the mode of transportation, I always hate bicyclists.

31. Sometimes I’ll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

32. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey – but I’d bet my ass everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!

A Rhythm All Its Own

I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day. ~Elwyn Brooks White

What do you get when you cross “extraordinary” loved ones that still talk to me, work load blessings beyond belief, memorable road trips, while living through a remodel to renovate a 148 year old building?

It’s either a sh*t load of patience or … immense gratitude.

Probably both … but I haven’t had enough coffee to make up a new word.

Still looking for that rhythm that I thought I once had.

Silly rabbit, Trix are for kids.